Thanks for replies, still going strong, actually mid MOT at the moment .
This is my daily driver so stays on the road at all times.
Not a bad list of things to do for the re-test;
Nearside front tyre fitted wrongly inside/outside ( I know who did this

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High level brake light inoperative- easy fix.
One ripped track rod end ball joint boot needs replacing.
& that's all
Wurly; Thanks. As far as I know 12v heater signal should be present with ignition on.
I'm wondering what creates the heated o2 signal now. What conditions have to be met?
Found another ecu, a 'virgin' p13 according to the seller.
It runs ok but I'm still getting code 41.
So with a second ecu giving same symptom, I'm fairly confident the trouble originates elsewhere.
The emissions are just about within permissible limits according to my MOT tester.
EGR system and FIT valve could do with clean out I reckon. They are next to-do.
I'm running an o2 sensor pulled off a civic I found at the breakers yard until I can get a better one.
Any more ideas anyone?